It's no secret that high school isn't enjoyable. Your parents always tell you that they're the best days of your life. I think they're wrong, times have changed and with social media and keeping up with the new trends, high school can be hell for most people.

When I was at high school, I always felt left out. I would look at Facebook (back when that was popular) and get really disappointed that I wasn't at that party, I didn't go out that often with my friends and I didn't get to go to that concert. Looking back on it all, I'm glad. I didn't fit in anyway. High school taught me quite a bit when I was there, or so I thought it did.

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If you didn't wear the latest trend, you wouldn't be accepted

This is one of the worst things when you're at school -  be there a uniform or not. In my old school we used to have to wear blazers, skirts, ties, shirts; the lot. But that doesn't mean trends didn't circulate. Those Paul's Boutique coats were everywhere, if you didn't have one you weren't 'cool'. So I rocked up in a parker coat very morning since I couldn't afford one. Funny thing is, once they were out of trend, everyone started coming in in parker coats. Ironic right?

Same goes with the skirts. Short skater skirts were all in and I could never find one long enough for my school to accept so I ended up wearing knee length pencil skirts. I was the only one for one whole academic year. The following year, everyone came in one.

The important thing here is to set your own trends. Wear what you want to wear - don't be a sheep like everyone else. Be yourself, as long as you're comfortable and feel great about yourself, wear what you want.

At the end of the day, when everyone leaves high school, it's not about the latest trends you can wear whatever the hell you want to and nobody gives a damn.

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If you hadn't been to an arena concert, you were the only one and were missing out

This is something I've more recently discovered. There was always a group of girls in my year that were going to concerts basically every few months - they still do. But because they had to share it with everyone, I felt as if I was the only one who had never been to an arena concert.

So in 2014 I bought tickets to go and see 5 Seconds of Summer and had a great time. Arena concerts are great and I've been to my fair share of them. But that's mainly because I felt like I had to play catch up (plus you do get slightly addicted).

When I got to college, it surprised me how many of my new friends have never been to an arena concert. It wasn't only my new friends but my old friends too had previously spoken out about how they had never been to one. I realised at that point, it was a form of peer pressure that I started to go to them. Obviously, I wanted to go and see my favourite band live but it was more this group of girls that made me feel like I was missing out that egged me on to go.

Just because you haven't experienced something yet that someone else has, doesn't mean you have to do it straight away to live up to these people. You go at your own pace. Anyway, I'd choose an intimate gig over an arena concert any day.

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If you didn't get invited to that party, you weren't liked

God, I cannot count how many parties my old school friends have been to and I haven't. They are all broadcasted on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. As the years go on, the crowds decrease and the party moves to the club and a taxi cab.

The point is, the parties would always be exaggerated online. Even to this day I still feel a bit of disappointment that I'm not there and that must mean they don't like me. That's no longer the case. Those people at the party do like me, they just never knew how much fun I could be - looking back though, my morals are different from theirs and I no longer want alcohol poisoning and to keel over at the age of 30.

The reality of these parties are that they are a close knit of friends that throw the parties and there are only maximum 15 people there (sometimes much, much less) but they're making out that they're having a great time dancing in one of their kitchens with the lights off, dressed up to the nines and chugging a bottle of vodka. Not my scene so thanks for the lack of an invite.

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You'll never make friends if you don't have any in high school

What a load of bullshit crap. You'd be lucky to keep your high school friendships for life. People are meant to come in and out of your life and you realise that as you move out of those teenage years. Yeah, it's great to have a close group of friends that you've been with since you were 10 years old but I'd much sooner have a drama free life thank you.

I never really had a close group of friends in high school - I had friends, but there was no one that I would turn to to confess everything to. I kept my crushes a secret, no one knew about my private life, hell - if I had a close group of friends, they would have known about my blog a lot sooner. But that doesn't mean that I don't have friends now.

College gave me a new environment and fresh faces where I've made friends for life. Be them friends I would go out partying with or not. I know they'll always be there for me no matter what circumstances they're under.

Sometimes a new environment and fresh faces are all you need. There are over 7 billion people in this world, the people in your high school make up what, 0.000000001% of that? There is a large number of people in this world that want to be your friend even if they know it yet or not so don't feel like high school friendships are the be all and end all.

So what did high school really teach me?

High school taught me to be unique, to be myself - no matter who liked it or not. Don't let high school and the people in it define you. You have complete control over your life, do what makes you happy and don't give in to peer pressure.






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