I'm always asking myself, 'How long is this 'friend' going to stay with me?'. My whole school life I have never had a friend that I could say that I could trust and who would additionally stick by me.
I have many insecurities, as many of
you reading this do, and the people around me in my social life don't help.
When I reached high school, I thought that I had friends, friends that would
stick by me. This one particular friend had been with me since I was eight and
we really got along. All of a sudden, we reached high school and she found new
friends. My instant thought was 'That hurt, but if you want another friendship
I'll support it.' So I let her go for a year or two. I got bullied in my form
when they all got changed around in Year 7.
So, yeah. I got bullied for the stupid
little things, like being the 'teacher pet' and being a 'Boffin' (Nerd). I got
told that I was never good enough because I was more intelligent and mature
than the people around me. Even now, in Year 10, I get called a 'b*tch' off of
some people. Being bullied is never a nice thing to be a part of - most
importantly, a victim of - I wish now that I had told a teacher sooner. What is
frustrating is that being bullied is classed as ‘normal’ now when it’s not.
Bullying in my opinion is not acceptable, it ruins people’s lives.
Moving back onto the subject I was going
to originally talk about: friends. They come and go, as you all know, and it’s
never nice to let someone go that you’ve been friends with for ages. Some
people you naturally grow apart from, some you don’t. I have realised, from my
past, as long as you’re strong enough, you don’t need friends to rely on. Yes,
it’s lovely to have a group of friends, I’m not saying it isn’t, but sometimes
people can disappoint.
I’m probably making it sound like you
should give up completely on people. Please don’t do that. There are people out
there who you can give your full trust to, you just haven’t found them yet. You
have years ahead of you to find these people.
Trust becomes a big thing in most
friendships. I have trust issues, I’m not going to deny it. I feel like
everyone is talking about me behind my back and that I can’t tell them anything
because they’ll tell someone else. There are reasons why I and most others feel
like this. It can be down to family (i.e divorced parents) to someone hurting
you in the past like a previous friend. The thing is, for everyone with them,
trust issues never disappear, and you just have to work with them. You can
never fully open up to someone, which is really frustrating when you want
someone to talk to.
All of these issues, for most people, is
down to what happens in friendships. When you experience something that
terrifies you about trusting people, or being honest, or even being yourself, this
progresses into further relations with people. Some people have no thought in
how they affect people’s lives – which links back to bullying.
What I am trying to get across, is that
people come and go in your life just don't always be reliant on them all the time. Be independent and strong.
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Photo credits:
'Nerd stuff probably really excites you' - https://charge.co/blog/gif-sharing-via-social-media/
'We click.' - https://uk.pinterest.com/explore/losing-friends-quotes/
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