Body Confidence and Self-Esteem


It's that time again! The reasoning behind this post is I went to go and get some school skirts today and it really upset me. Once you look at yourself in a bad way, that image never erases from your memory and you pick out every single flaw you have and them compare yourself to others. I hate it.


When I went shopping and tried on this skirt, I knew I wasn't that fat. The mirrors, lighting and skirt made me look double the size. However, as soon as I exited that changing room I looked at every single other female and questioned why I was so fat, ugly and spotty. It really depressed me and I shouldn't think like that, even though I do. The thing is, we all do it.

I hate the fact that every single human being has that low point in life where they compare themselves, some of you reading this probably act on this, please don't, it's not worth the pain. Everyone is beautiful and unique. Why is it that we all compare ourselves? 

Being me, I am curvy yet I hate my body for it, the big thighs, the rolls of fat, big boobs, big bum. The thing is, I shouldn't hate myself for being me, I should hate society for having such stupid and unrealistic expectations of women (and men). Society have created the perfect figure, the opposite sex of teens are attracted to the same types - blonde hair, blue eyes, tall, thigh gap, plump lips, small nose, thin, big boobs, nice ass, small feet. the thing is though, most women are curvy, have a little fat, brown hair, blonde hair, blue eyes, brown eyes, thin lips, plump lips, small, tall, no thigh gap, thigh gap, small boobs, big boobs. We are all different and that is what makes us all pretty.


Personally, I don't think there is ever going to be a definition for 'pretty', some might say Kendall Jenner is pretty others can say Kate Winslet (Rose out of Titanic) is pretty - two completely different women in looks and personality. Personality. Your personality is what makes you gorgeous, not your looks. As long a your intentions are good you will come across to anyone as a beautiful human being.


Don't follow all these people, love your body. If anything, you should be lucky to be healthy and alive, be comfortable in your own skin, don't listen to what other people have to say about yourself - it's not worth the hours at night crying.



Social Media is no help to self esteem and body confidence either. Who can get more likes, who has the bigger boobs, who wears the best outfit/underwear. It's disgusting! Once they bring in this 'dislike button' on Facebook, be prepared. I can tell you now, every single person will have at least three dislikes. Don't let it get you down, F*CK THE HATERS! Let those dislikes make you stronger, it's jealousy that makes them press that bad button - you know the way we look at others and think 'Damn, I want that body!', that is the sort of jealousy I'm talking about. Take the dislikes in a good way, that people like your body and how you look, even if you're not showing your underwear.


I'm glad I looked at myself in that mirror today because now I have realised that I don't need to be thin, I don't need to have a genetically perfect face. I am happy the size I am and I am happy about my physical features, and that's how it should be. Don't ever compare yourself to anyone else, there is no point they are no more beautiful then you are. 


I really hope this inspires some of you and makes you realise that it doesn't matter about your size or how you look. Just keep smiling though it. As I said last time, I'm here if you ever want to talk, my links are below or contact me via SophieTheUnique@gmail.com




Much love. Until next time...

Sophie xx



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